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Living With Chronic Illness

Chronic illness has a profound impact on one’s life and can create a lot of grief in response to the losses it imposes on our lives.   There's a large variety of potential life interruptions and psychological changes one will go through when dealing with illness.  Illness is erratic and unpredictable and requires constant readjusting.  We are likely to endure multiple losses that may include the loss of control and personal power, which is an important contributor to self-esteem, as well as loss of independence, loss of identity, loss of financial status and loss of one’s customary lifestyle.

In addition to these, we may also have to face the possible relinquishing of our hopes and dreams and face the fear of more on going losses.  Changing roles in family, work and social situations that result from a person’s illness also can create additional adjustment problems for everyone involved.  Family members and partners are likely to be experiencing the same feelings as we are, as well as their own feelings as to how the illness is impacting their life.  If these issues are not worked out, then relationships may fall apart and leave us with another loss.

Perhaps the most difficult transition with chronic illness is the loss of the identity one held before becoming sick.  There is usually a complete restructuring of the way one defines oneself and the ways in which one interacts with the world.  Sometimes it is difficult to feel good about oneself as the chronic illness is incorporated into a new self-image.  The work of rebuilding one’s life and identity can be further complicated by the loss of spouses or partners or other supportive relationships that sometimes follow the onset of serious illness.

And, as all persons who suffer with an invisible chronic illness know, the lack of validation and support for our illness creates further grief and frustration.  At a time when we most need compassion, love, understanding, sympathy and support we may be met with criticism, disbelief, and anger.

It is no wonder that many people facing these multiple losses and the grief that naturally ensues find themselves experiencing high levels of anger, fear, helplessness, hopelessness, resentment, depression and damaged self-esteem.  Coping with all these issues can be very overwhelming.

However, don't despair, as there are many tools at your disposal that can help you through the acceptance process, cope more effectively and achieve a higher quality of life. For starters, you can find an abundance of helpful life management tips and strategies in my book
 "Living Life to the Fullest - Creative Coping Strategies for Managing Chronic Illness.

Additionally, many chronic health conditions can be improved with simple changes in diet and lifestyle, and you should use a full range of "functional medicine tests to assess your biochemistry and identify the underlying issues that may be contributing to your condition.

Chronic Illness Life Management Tips

• Establish a good relationship with a supportive health care provider.


• Allow yourself to feel and express your feelings.


• Learn to use cognitive reframing to help you cope and adapt.


• Allow yourself to grieve for what you have lost.


• Find support such as a support group, friends, counselor, etc.


• Recognize the limits chronic illness demands in your life and set reasonable goals.  Be realistic about what to expect from yourself.


• Learn to adapt, make substitutions and modifications so that you can still participate in fulfilling life activities.  Do something fun!


• Keep communication open with partners, friends and family members so that feelings and resentments don’t build up and so everyone’s needs can be addressed and met in the best way possible.


• Learn to value your own company, become your own best friend and find your self worth based on inner strengths rather than on what you do.


• Take care of your body by following a healthy diet, mild exercise, and appropriate rest.  Listen to your body.  It will tell you what it needs.  Pamper and nurture yourself with things that are enjoyable for you.


• Educate yourself as much as possible about your condition and take an active role in your treatment.  This will help regain a sense of control and improve your self-esteem.


• Let go of expectations of others and society.  Understand that societies definition of what's normal no longer applies.  Do what you need to do for yourself.


• Make peace with your chronic illness.  Try to think of your illness and your pain as your companion instead of your enemy.  Listen to the wisdom and lessons it may carry for you.  Learn to flow with and accept your illness rather than resisting it.

Chronic Illness Life Management Techniques and Strategies

Some strategies that have been helpful for others in coping with a chronic health condition are Mental Renovations, Companionate Activity Modification and Network Remodeling. (1)
 
Mental Renovations consist of cognitive and emotional strategies used to change expectations of what is usually thought to be normal.  An example of this would be (adjusting one's mind to think it’s ok if you can’t do something the “normal” way but you can find another way to do it that fits your needs.)

Companionate Activity modifications consist of making modifications that include activity adaptation and substitution and changes in timing, location, and intensity of companionate activities.  An example of this might be (you’re physically unable to attend an outing with your child so you find another alternative activity of having quality time such as a dinner at home and reading together.

Network Remodeling consists of carefully allocating times and energy around your network.  Carefully ration your energy.  Prioritize and make lists of what’s important and what must be done and what can be put off for later.

Living with chronic illness is not easy.  In some cases, it is a lifelong process that will require ongoing adjustment and readjustment of every day and each situation.  Understand and accept that it is the nature of your illness to be unpredictable, intrusive, interfering, and erratic.  Expect the unexpected and make adjustments accordingly. 

As you are sure to go through periods when your symptoms exacerbate and periods of improvement, it is natural for you to move back and forth in your level of acceptance and adjustment.  Understand that acceptance and adjustment occur in ebbs and flows. However, at the same time, you want to continue to explore options that may help you improve your health.

Helpful Resources for Living with Chronic Illness

Living Life to the Fullest

Mindfulness - A Powerful Self-Care Tool

Mindfulness Based Meditation

Coping with Chronic Pain

Cognitive Reframing Techniques

Using Brainwaves to Manage Chronic Pain and Cope with Chronic Illness

Living in Spite of Your Symptoms

Managing Cognitive Impairment

Deep Breathing Exercises

Using Gratitude to Enhance Your Health

Inspirational Quotes

Humor and Inspiration to Enhance Your Health

Benefits of Meditation

Getting Back to Nature

The Healing Power of Love

Managing Stress

Reference:
1.  Duck S. & Wood J.T.:  Confronting Relationship Challenges 1995